Thursday, September 20, 2012

Budget Plans

We hit the big old goose egg in the bank account, Ugh! I was panicking the whole time too. I was super worried about all the auto payments that would come out on Monday and how we wouldn't receive a paycheck until Wednesday. I just didn't want to have to pay bank fees and deal with all trouble.

Enter stage left My husband was here to save the day! He had a solution and fixed everything. I finally have my banking software balance current since a 0 makes things really easy to handle. The paycheck went in and I got to work planning how we would spend our money responsibly and not have to rely on credit or see that dreaded goose egg again.

I'm sure there is some deep meaning behind my inability to plan things out but it just hasn't hit me over the head just yet. 

So I took a deep breath Ok maybe I took two. I put my big girl panties on and I got to work. I have been using a print out sheet just to sort of track at a glance how I am spending my money and to see what bills are due.

It's nothing fancy. I tried to break things down weekly so it is manageable. The amount category is in grey, since most bills are semi predictable I just put the average. Things like our weekly car payment withdrawal almost never get written over. But things like the water and electric tend to change a little. I used to track our fuel expenses religiously but have gotten out of the rhythm of tallying it each week.

If you'd like a copy of my form just leave a comment and I'll send it you.
Have a great day!
Nina

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

tired

Have you had one of those days....

Where you feel like no one is listening....

and you're repeating yourself all the time.....

It was one of those kind of weeks for me last week. I was irritable at the slightest thing and no one wanted to be around me. And I honestly can not blame them. But what is a Mom to do when things are beginning to circle the drain?

 You can scream, yell, shout and completely alienate your family. You could run away and join the circus. Lock yourself in a tower and wait for your prince charming to rescue you (hubby comes home, whips everyone in to shape and saves the day)

Or we could try something new.... Ignoring things that are undesirable. I am starting a new thing where I give warnings once on certain things. The particular example that comes to mind is shoes and back packs being left where ever the boys feel like it. 

Our slab house doesn't have the most ideal entry way. I tried to use the maintenance closet as a catch all and when one child had a back pack and gear he wanted to take care of it worked great. Now DS4 wants to take care of his own things and I need to have more kid friendly and accessible storage.


This is what I started with.....







This is the after! 
I piled most of the crud in the middle of the garage and started with a blank slate! The carpet remnant is an odd shape but I found it works great if I place the trimmed out corner around the bench. The bench was a project from last year that didn't turn out quite as expected since I cut the pieces with the lengths and widths mixed up. But I was able to make it work and the original bins hold misc toys around the house. 







I removed the pink bins and decided to use just one bin so we can fit snow pants in there this winter. By moving the bench to the other side of the door when there is an over spill of shoes I won't trip over them when I am leaving for work in the darkness at 4:45am.  


Stay tuned for more I have even more areas in the garage to tackle!
Nina



Sunday, June 3, 2012

Sunny Side Up

Do you see things in a positive light? Are you a sunny side up kinda person?


I actually enjoy budgeting and paying my bills. It's a game to me however it is depressing as hell when you can't pay every bill and uber sad when you reconcile your bank account only to find out you spent it all and didn't pay a single bill. I found the website www.betterbudgeting.com quite a few years ago when things were really crummy.


 I am not sure why the heck My hubby and I thought it was a good idea for us to have a car payment that was $543 every month. But that site helped me to see what a realistic budget should be. Now don't think I'm some money guru and I know everything however I have learned to like planning for things and it feels awesome when you get to but that item you've been saving for even if it only $20. 


For some reason finances where never discussed growing up by my mother or by Mark's parents. I picked up her habits even though my mother and I never talked about money. I wonder if it wasn't picking up the habits just because we never discussed it?? I guess I had the thought process that there would always be money in my account. WRONG! Oh is that ever a wake up call! Mark does tend to buy things just because he wants them. We all need shoes and yes you do definitely get what you pay for, however I just asked Mark to buy his favorite brand of shoe DC for around $40. It requires patience and he did it! It was awesome! 


It's a sore subject to talk about money no matter when/why/how/where I bring it up. Sometimes I find myself giving a disclaimer statement about what I'm going to dive into. And even if I'm not looking at him I know he's rolling his eyes at me. In fact I do get a lot of eye rolls and they aren't all just from him. 


So how do you keep your finances organized?
Nina



Monday, May 21, 2012

May I?

Last month I wanted to know where you are? We are constantly pulled in different directions and it feels crazy, insane, wonderful, joyous and just plain amazing to be alive and have people that need you. 

Who needs you? Do you put others at the forefront and allow yourself to be consumed by them? 

I recently posted on fb  Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. It sparked this mini debate about being codependent. I realize that I am an odd duck since I am lost without my family. No really I do feel lost when I have unannounced free time I usually just take a nap.

I am trying to break the urge to go shopping all the time. As it turns out, shopping as a hobby is really hard to break. Especially when you grow up not knowing better. Credit card debit will certainly change your opinion on that real quick. robbing Peter to pay Paul is no way to live.

The house is slowly getting in shape. I am so proud of myself for my mail sorting task! Today I brought in the mail and opened it all. YES even the letter from the IRS that made me want to run and hide under the covers. The center island remained clean and I even helped Mark clean up the dishes mess that the boys and I made from our quick dinner. Oh do I have a long road ahead but I'll get there one baby step at a time. just like flylady says you can do anything for 15 minutes so I'm off to clean up the rest of my mess in the kitchen!

Love you all! 
Nina

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

where am i?

Where am I?


I have been feeling pulled into a million directions lately. I started working a second job in March. I am working towards being a shift manager at my first job. I am the Committee Chair person for Pack 582, my son's Cub Scout Pack. Oh and I am still trying to potty train DS3. He just won't sh*t on the toilet yet. It's so frustrating! DS3 just take a sh*t on the crapper already it'll feel so wonderful when you do. PLEASE!!!


I love the gym! It's such an amazing place. I love it when DH and I can workout together. It makes me fall in love with him all over again. He has such an amazing personality and I love his sense of humor. NOT his pranks! No no not at all! As my TEAM Weightloss class finally came to and end I finally lost weight! Yay! Nine pounds! It's so awesome!


Where are you?
Nina

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

New Year, New You!

New Year, New You. It's a phrase we hear often and many people make new years resolutions. Did you? 

I did: loose weight, get organized and stop yelling. 

So how do we all get there? How do we reach our goals? 

Mine are very broad and are unobtainable as they are now. I  like many really would like to reach my goals. But the BIG question is how do we do it?

I am starting by breaking them into monthly goals.

January
Declutter Home
Loose 10lbs
No Yelling :)

February
Loose 10lbs
Maintain Tidy Home
Continue Not Yelling

March
Loose 10lbs
Maintain Tidy Home
Continue Not Yelling

April
Maintain Tidy Home
Continue Not Yelling

May
Maintain Tidy Home

June
Maintain Tidy Home

July
Maintain Tidy Home

August
Maintain Tidy Home

September
Maintain Tidy Home

October
Maintain Tidy Home

November
Maintain Tidy Home

December
Maintain Tidy Home


I'm sure I'll have more to add to April thru December. However I am starting with a 27 fling boogie everyday to declutter. I joined TEAM Weightloss at the gym we meet three times a week. I have a food diary now. Both of those things have made me calmer so I have not been yelling even when Gage was an hour past his bed time and still not getting ready for bed! Yay me!

So what are your big plans?
Nina

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Ugh! What a day...

STRESS!!!!


I have reached my limit. I feel completely over worked and over whelmed with the things going on right now......


Why is it so hard to do things bit by bit? Why must I feel as thought I have to do everything with the all or nothing mentality? I have lost my big girl panties. Usually I would just pull them up and get to work. I just don't feel like I am able to do that.


I wish DS3 would just #2 on the potty already. Cleaning up the carpet and the walls has gotten to be a pain in the kiester now. Not sure what it will take to get him motivated. Maybe he'll find his motivation when I find mine.


It's hard to be there for everyone when you're thinking of all that you should/could be doing instead.


Tonight's goal before bed:


say I love you to the boys and shine the sink.


Nina